Pet Peeve

When a person who has done something in the recent past that upset me and the person is aware that it upset me because it is usually something that we have had conversations about, especially focusing on how to avoid the situation. Then they avoid me for some time as if I’m this evil entity that will blow up at them. (Just because something upsets me, it doesn’t mean I’ll cease communication. That’s reserved for rare instances when I go underground to deal with personal matters and in that case it affects communication with everyone.)

Well, when this person finally decides they’re ready to reconnect, they come back pretending that nothing happened and everything was resolved and if I don’t go along with the bullshit they ask why am I being cold. 

…This is where I usually want to go off in loud explicatives but I always hold my tongue.

I believe if you are above a certain age bracket and go around proclaiming maturity, you should face the shit that you do. Don’t expect me to go along with pretending that you didn’t fuck up and go into hiding. I have very little respect for ‘adults’ who try this crap. Granted, there are cases in which pretending for a while till the situation is defused works but not for petty little things. 

To me, it’s the little things that count the most. If a person in my life cannot see that then they need not be there.